Thursday 26 February 2015

The Challenge of Growing up Without a Father.


      Growing up without a father poses several risk and challenges to children. The major root cause of fatherless children stems from divorce and on rare cases of dead. Often times, the father,s presence in the family has a dramatic effect on the life and behavioral pattern of the children as he is the person to create and impact discipline and or corrective measures in the home.

     The lack of a father's daily presence in the family is often thought to be at the root of many of society's problem. But the truth about it is that fatherless children are forced to fend for themselves, thereby causing an increase in burden on to them and impacting more responsibilities on their shoulder. Similarly, single parenting draws more burden and also impacts more responsibilities on their shoulders. According to one divorcee. she opines a pressure in work load as a result of more responsibilities on her in keeping with the children,s needs at home.


     Fatherless children has been the root cause of many disorders in the society today. much of the crimes and other act of violence in the society when trace always resulted in broken family of a single parent. the issue of parenting from its inception was not to be handle by a single individual but rather by both parents as no single individual can cause the production of a child as it takes two to tangle. The following are some of the negative impact and risk pose by fatherless children in the society.

BEHAVIORAL:  Children act out in a number of ways to release their feelings of abandonment. betrayal and loneliness when a father is missing from home. Some researchers in Massey university report that 85 percent of children treated for behavior disorders do not have a father in the home. Boys and girls alike expose to gangs are more likely to be drawn to the packs that provide a sense of security they miss by not having a father in the home. Juvenile facilities are filled mostly with teens from fatherless homes. Children who do not have the benefit of a strong. stable father figure in the home are 10 times more likely to use drugs and 32 times more likely to run away from home at an early age than teens with a consistence fatherly influence.

MENTAL HEATH:  Mental illness. low self esteem and stress related illness typically are more prevalent in homes where the father does not live. According to article in Father.com, children living without their father are more likely to commit suicide than their peers coming from two parent household. Common mental illness reported by children living with a divorced mother includes anxiety,depression and moodiness.

ACADEMICS:  Children that are brought up by a single parent tends to do poorly in school, as their grades and performance fall drastically as a result of the separation of the father. In Massey university research statistics, 75 percent of high school dropout comes from fatherless families.

SEXUAL BEHAVIOR:  Because there is likely less parental supervision in a single parent home, young ones often have more opportunities to engage in immoral conduct, less parental training may also be a factor. Girls without a father in their life are two and a half times as likely to get pregnant than girls in two parents household.

POVERTY:  As a rule children from single mother homes are more likely to experience poverty at sometimes in their childhood. Children who comes from home in which the parent were never married are 64 times more likely to be poor than kids from two parent home or those whose parent divorced. A study from black teenage girls in South Africa concluded that poverty is a common consequence of unwed parenthood.

EMOTIONAL DAMAGE:   Divorce inflict long lasting emotional wounds to children, over a third of the young men and women between the ages of 19 and 29 have little or no ambition, 10 years after their parents divorce. They are drifting through life with no set goals and a set of helplessness. Low self esteem, depression, delinquent behavior and persistent anger were observed among many children of divorce parents.

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